Surreal!

This is so surreal!

My last post on this blog was exactly on the same date in 2011!!!
9 years have passed...& how!

The world is a different place!
My world is a different place!
People who took center stage back then have moved away...
Some people have gotten closer
New people have come into my life...

I am older today
Probably not wiser..
But definitely less naive.
The innocence has shut itself in a quiet corner somewhere...
An act of self conservation maybe...At least it's not dead (small victories)

Losses n life lessons have reshaped aspirations,
Reality has reshaped dreams.

Thankfully, "Hope" survived the decade...
I do still believe..
I do still hope..
That eventually,
All will be well..

My AHA moment!

:)

I know to anyone reading my blog (If anyone actually is :P) this may sound corny, cheesy n tacky...
But I just had an AHA moment!!!

I had to write it down so I could come back n read it later if ever I forgot this life lesson!
(Thank you Internet!)

   Well, I was having one of those sleepless nights when I finally decided to just get up n quit trying further to sleep.

I had recently downloaded some of  Oprah's farewell season episodes
(I tend to watch a lot of stuff especially around my exams...need something to procrastinate!!!:P)

While scrolling through the episode list to get some life inspiration,  I saw this episode titled
                                                     'LOVE STORY REUNITES!' 
I assumed that probably it's one of those episodes where long lost lovers meet on the set of Oprah <3
 The romantic in me killed the cynic & chose to check out romance instead of self-help!
:) Typical!!!:P

  Anyway, I was in for a surprise when I realized that actually the episode was a literal Reunion of the lead pairs of the famous movie-The Love Story !
  Now I had not seen the movie but I've most definitely read the book as a teenager
 As a matter of fact, I have it on my pillow already looking at me while I type this!
(I pulled it out as soon as I finished the episode!!!I love paperback!:P)

    Well, it was a wonderful episode watching Ali McGraw's talk about how she had found peace with herself & to watch Ryan O'Neal talk with so much love for Farrah Fawcett (his partner who died of cancer last year) <3

But something from the show just resonated with me & I think it probably will with anyone who watched the episode or is reading this...

   If you have read the book or even seen the movie, you would most definitely remember when Jenny says to Oliver,"Love is never having to say sorry!"
  :)
 
I confess that when I had first read this at 16 yrs of age, I went ,  "WOW"
I mean imagine being so purely in love when u don't need to apologize! Back then, I wondered if such love actually happens to people n worse, if I would ever experience it?
:P

Years later , when I'm not a relationship-virgin anymore (:P...I just coined this word n I love it!It's so apt!)
So, ya, now that m not a relationship-virgin anymore, I actually smirked when they played that video...& it was refreshing to see Oprah n Ali address it...

I found an excerpt on www.oprah.com & this is how it went:

http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Ali-MacGraws-Infamous-Movie-Line-Video

:)

It's true!
It definitely doesn't make sense !
In any relationship, when you mess up, you need to own up your mistakes and apologize. Not just in words, you need to ensure that your actions also follow through!
It ain't easy...but neither is Life !

Well, turns out with Oprah , even romance can be enlightening!!!
She is a gift <3

Some things men can learn....

Well, don't know what to really blog about tonight.... my brain has been a muddle....

I have been trying hard to understand the human male brain !
I know... I know...it's uncomplicated and simple... there are fewer cross links... there are just straight pathways...black or white....red or purple....there r no grays or mauve....
Even peach is always just a fruit n not a color!!!

As someone from the opposite gender, it is this simplicity that astounds me...
I mean, to a woman...there are 1000 shades between black & white...& loads between red n purple...

No..this is not a sexist rant...Science supports this fact!
Physics has established that too many wavelengths exist between black n white & between red n purple .Therefore way too many shades exist between the colors.

Similarly, from biology we know that, more evolved the neurological system is,  the more cross pathways there are in the brain helping it process more information.

Thus, proving that most female brains are more evolved .
It isn't asking a lot to hope and expect the male brain to catch up :P

No..no...we are not asking you to appreciate the different colors like mauve,burgundy or lavender....That maybe a lot to ask for ...But why not start with the simplest of things???

:)

Start by learning to cross reference from past experiences...or better ,  get slightly intuitive (for those unsure about what that is , it means to know what she wants without her having to ask!)

For example, you know that ghosts scare her, try cross referencing that information while planning your next date...Don't insist on watching Annabelle or going to House of Horror!!!
Instead, take her for the movie that she's been wanting to see (she hasn't been bugging you with " I sooo wanna see that movie" just so that she has to end up watching it alone! She's trying to give you a hint!)

Remember,  while watching almost any romantic movie when you see her sigh or her eyes moisten up...its not just because she's happy for the girl in the film...but it could be because she wants to be that girl....
No! I don't think she actually wants you to role play SRK 4m Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Ghum or  Gerard Butler from P.S I Love You!!!
But she's probably hoping for you to be more considerate n romantic than you already are...

Even on a scale of 1 to 10 ,if you think that you stand a solid 8...she probably wishes u were a 9!:)

No!
This is not over expectations!It's just being hopeful and knowing your worth...it's good for everyone involved. It uplifts and improves the game :)

Also boys, it is annoying whenever we ask you what do you want for your birthday?or what do you wanna do for the anniversary ?
Your answer is always the same..."I Dunno"!

I mean Seriously dude!Plan a little...Imagine a little!
You needn't be the mills n boon  perfect guy....but anything beyond the usual will be great!

Look, I m not trying to be biased here..
I mean if you are with someone who's asking you or demanding that you up your game but herself is not putting in efforts, it is unreasonable...
But if you are with someone who is trying...to make your day a little better , no harm in making small changes to show you care too <3

Lastly, know this:

The most important thing in your love story is not "The Happily Ever After!"
But it is the part where we can look back & say...

"He loved me & was there for me....even when I was silly, wrong & naive!"