Happy New Year!!!

New Year..New beginnings...new attempts to reboot the crashing systems :)

I am a sucker for traditions...a part of me still believes in the myth that whatever you do on your new year , the pattern will stick for the entire year!
This year....I've decided to do something very unlike me...TO NOT ASK/ EXPECT...

I want to see what life & people around me have to offer me without me asking for it...
It often happens with alot of us that you feel like u give too much n don't get enough back . This feeling brings about a frustration & then we start seeking attention , expect favors to be returned...
& when that doesn't happen , we end up hurt , disappointed & alone...

I'm trying out this experiment....to not to ask.. to not expect...to give how much I want to ..while keeping in mind that even if I don't get anything in return , I cannot ask...

I'm not trying to judge life or people in my life or score them..this ain't a test for them..but a challenge for me..
I need to try and not expect...that way whatever I may get...would be a wonderful surprise...a gift!

I know this isn't going to be easy...you'd know if u knew me :D
I am a girl with way too many expectations from myself, from people around me and from life itself!

I  hope I can keep my Resolution and learn something on the way!!!
Wish me luck...:)

& a very Happy New Year to you too!

Some things men can learn....

Well, don't know what to really blog about tonight.... my brain has been a muddle....

I have been trying hard to understand the human male brain !
I know... I know...it's uncomplicated and simple... there are fewer cross links... there are just straight pathways...black or white....red or purple....there r no grays or mauve....
Even peach is always just a fruit n not a color!!!

As someone from the opposite gender, it is this simplicity that astounds me...
I mean, to a woman...there are 1000 shades between black & white...& loads between red n purple...

No..this is not a sexist rant...Science supports this fact!
Physics has established that too many wavelengths exist between black n white & between red n purple .Therefore way too many shades exist between the colors.

Similarly, from biology we know that, more evolved the neurological system is,  the more cross pathways there are in the brain helping it process more information.

Thus, proving that most female brains are more evolved .
It isn't asking a lot to hope and expect the male brain to catch up :P

No..no...we are not asking you to appreciate the different colors like mauve,burgundy or lavender....That maybe a lot to ask for ...But why not start with the simplest of things???

:)

Start by learning to cross reference from past experiences...or better ,  get slightly intuitive (for those unsure about what that is , it means to know what she wants without her having to ask!)

For example, you know that ghosts scare her, try cross referencing that information while planning your next date...Don't insist on watching Annabelle or going to House of Horror!!!
Instead, take her for the movie that she's been wanting to see (she hasn't been bugging you with " I sooo wanna see that movie" just so that she has to end up watching it alone! She's trying to give you a hint!)

Remember,  while watching almost any romantic movie when you see her sigh or her eyes moisten up...its not just because she's happy for the girl in the film...but it could be because she wants to be that girl....
No! I don't think she actually wants you to role play SRK 4m Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Ghum or  Gerard Butler from P.S I Love You!!!
But she's probably hoping for you to be more considerate n romantic than you already are...

Even on a scale of 1 to 10 ,if you think that you stand a solid 8...she probably wishes u were a 9!:)

No!
This is not over expectations!It's just being hopeful and knowing your worth...it's good for everyone involved. It uplifts and improves the game :)

Also boys, it is annoying whenever we ask you what do you want for your birthday?or what do you wanna do for the anniversary ?
Your answer is always the same..."I Dunno"!

I mean Seriously dude!Plan a little...Imagine a little!
You needn't be the mills n boon  perfect guy....but anything beyond the usual will be great!

Look, I m not trying to be biased here..
I mean if you are with someone who's asking you or demanding that you up your game but herself is not putting in efforts, it is unreasonable...
But if you are with someone who is trying...to make your day a little better , no harm in making small changes to show you care too <3

Lastly, know this:

The most important thing in your love story is not "The Happily Ever After!"
But it is the part where we can look back & say...

"He loved me & was there for me....even when I was silly, wrong & naive!"

Something IS better than nothing

I often tend to wonder if in my attempt to achieve perfection , am I damaging something that is ALMOST perfect???

like when you have some play-doh ( that colorful gooey stuff that u once played with as a child <3 )  & you are trying so hard to make something awesome out of it.
You maybe end up making a cute cat. However you were probably aiming to make a lion!
And in the process of turning that cute kitty into a fierce lion you damage your li'l cat model & now are nowhere near a lion :(

I know this probably comes across as too metaphorical.
What I am trying to say is that maybe " SOMETHING IS BETTER THAN NOTHING" isn't such a bad idea..
Some may argue that this outlook is not what creates genius & if you settle for little, you cannot achieve great things

Everyday life seems like a poker game... you don't know all your cards and often you are playing blind..

I guess a way out is to put on your poker face & put yourself out there....not that I mean go jump of a cliff without a damn parachute...or turn that pretty cat into a ball & restart anew (play-doh reference again!)

What I am saying is,
       Strive for your idea of perfection..but don't get reckless....Don't destroy all you have built, all the progress you have made just because the final picture does not match your initial vision!
        Appreciate your journey and be grateful of the opportunities that brought you here.

I guess I'm going to continue working on turning my little play-doh kitty into the fierce lion I am hoping for...but in the process, I am going to be happy with my achievement & try not to irreversibly damage my kitty ;p a difficult  but not entirely impossible!!!

                

UNDO

How does one undo something...a line...a moment???

I ain't talking about time travelling of course (However appealing & tempting the idea may be).
What I am trying to ask is,

           ' Is there ever a way that something can truly be corrected or rectified?'

                                               HOW???

 How can one truly undo what has been done???
                     a word said? a thought imagined? a line heard?

I have realized, it can't ever happen.
At the most, what we can console ourselves is to Forget...n if possible forgive...
With Time, all is forgotten...but evidence will stay behind albeit in traces..

So maybe we should start becoming more aware of our words and actions. Let them steep for a while before we put them out in the universe to stay forever....

Humanity or Religion???

                     I saw a documentary yesterday...The God Delusion by Richard Dawkins.

Pretty interesting actually...It was unnerving to see that in many parts of even the 1st world countries , children are brought up believing that only their religion is going to lead them to Divine Fulfillment of their Destiny & if they do not live accordingly they will burn in hell n face misery forever!!!

Somehow it makes me really appreciate how I was brought up as a child...a Hindu girl in a Convent school in a Secular country... I think it was the best upbringing I can imagine!

In school we were taught science as it was...Evolution n all...
I remember in the third grade we first learnt about Evolution . The 1st line in the chapter of  read - MAN IS A SOCIAL ANIMAL. OUR ANCESTORS ARE THE PRIMATES.
This was followed by the definition of Evolution & a pictorial time line of Evolution of Modern Man from a primate to the Neanderthal Man and ultimately to Homo Sapiens.

I remember one of my classmates raised her hand & asked Miss Theresa (our class teacher),"So Miss,Who are Adam & Eve?"

I was lost as I had never heard of any Adam or Eve at that time.
Miss Theresa smiled & answered ever so patiently saying,"Well, that's what you learn in Church & Sunday school while this is what you learn in school"


Looking back I realize that it was the  perfect thing a teacher could say to a child... the uncomplicated Truth!!!
Ms Theresa did not take sides - pitting science and religion against each other but put down the facts giving the kids a new perspective that both can coexist in peace.

Growing up,  I was surrounded by friends from various beliefs.... Jains, Hindus, Muslims, Catholics, etc. In our childish banter,  I remember often arguing with my friends how my dress was nicer or my teacher was better n sometimes on the similar lines - MY RELIGION IS BETTER THAN YOURS. 
At times like these I was scolded and reprimanded by the adults around me & was constantly told,  "ALL RELIGIONS ARE GOOD . THEY ALL TEACH YOU TO LOVE & RESPECT ONE ANOTHER.All these religions are just different paths leading to the same destination...God!"

I know it probably sounds too righteous & m not saying that I m spiritual because of this past...but thanks to this unbiased upbringing,  I am capable of appreciating every religion & seeing the beauty of it.

With time, I have changed & so have my beliefs in religion and rituals.
I no longer believe that m a true Hindu (if there's such a term) but I ain't no Atheist either.
I do believe in a Higher Power and appreciate things we humans do to appease that power - rituals & religions.
Only difference is...now I believe that all these religions r just different routes to one destination...being a Good Human!!!

Isn't that what ultimately matters? 
- Doing Good